To answer the question of which of the bullet points sounds good for an article, one on finding a mentor and what a mentor is good for could be helpful. I've had teachers (at school and bootcamps) but never really a mentor, at least not in the way people seem to use that word (I'm guessing authors of books and blog posts that you don't interact with other than by reading their work don't count as mentors). People talk about how important they are, but like building a network, it seems out of reach for those of us introverts with social anxiety.
Hmm, good question. I'd say that finding a mentor, much like finding a friend, is not something you need (or want) to ask for explicit permission to do. You ask for advice from someone, and if you like their advice, you keep asking them in the future. Voila, a mentor is born.
With that in mind, do you already have a mentor? Or are you uncomfortable asking for advice? Or do you just not know anyone whose advice would be helpful?
Great article - two other resources I have found helpful to super-charge supportive self-talk are “Feeling Good” by Aaron Burns and “ The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive” by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer. The positive reframing and action-focused approach is so helpful to moving forward and a lifelong journey.
Thanks for the suggestions, John! Wellness books are weird: two such books can contain basically the same underlying message, but be taken completely differently by two different people. The one that finally clicked for me was this one: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/resources/.
To answer the question of which of the bullet points sounds good for an article, one on finding a mentor and what a mentor is good for could be helpful. I've had teachers (at school and bootcamps) but never really a mentor, at least not in the way people seem to use that word (I'm guessing authors of books and blog posts that you don't interact with other than by reading their work don't count as mentors). People talk about how important they are, but like building a network, it seems out of reach for those of us introverts with social anxiety.
Hmm, good question. I'd say that finding a mentor, much like finding a friend, is not something you need (or want) to ask for explicit permission to do. You ask for advice from someone, and if you like their advice, you keep asking them in the future. Voila, a mentor is born.
With that in mind, do you already have a mentor? Or are you uncomfortable asking for advice? Or do you just not know anyone whose advice would be helpful?
Love it -- "Be your own Loved One; you deserve it."
Thank you for sharing Simon!
Hi Simon,
Great article - two other resources I have found helpful to super-charge supportive self-talk are “Feeling Good” by Aaron Burns and “ The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive” by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer. The positive reframing and action-focused approach is so helpful to moving forward and a lifelong journey.
Thanks,
-John
Thanks for the suggestions, John! Wellness books are weird: two such books can contain basically the same underlying message, but be taken completely differently by two different people. The one that finally clicked for me was this one: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/resources/.